Top 6 regrets

Top 6 Regrets of the Dying

We all know you can’t take it with you but what are the biggest regrets of people that are dying?

Do they regret not owning a boat or putting a million dollars in their bank account?

No, when it comes down to it those aren’t the things that cross their minds when they are preparing to die.

But there are regrets that stay with them and can happen to us unless we change things.

Top 6 Regrets of the Dying

1. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

This is a common phrase among those who are dying. Work can slip into a priority over all other things including family and friends.

In the blink of an eye, you can find that you have missed important events like holidays with family or even small events like your daughter’s dance recital.

These are the things you will regret missing more than anything else when thinking back on your life.

What can I do now - Decide your priorities and find a balance in your life so that work and family can coexist in harmony.

2. I wish I had been more generous.

It can be hard to think of others when you are just trying to survive the rat race of life. But that can be something you could regret later in life.

Many times those opportunities to reach out and help other people can slip by you unnoticed unless you do something about it.

Sometimes it may be being generous with your money. Sometimes it would be being generous with your time.

You don’t want to think back and realize that you could have made a difference in someone else’s life and you didn’t take that opportunity.

What can I do now - Give freely of your time and your love to those around you. Be on the lookout to be the helping hand or crying shoulder that others need.

Be the person you want to be remembered as.

3. I wish I would have expressed my feelings.

Sharing how you feel about someone can be scary and vulnerable and some may find it too hard to do during their lifetime.

Because of this relationships can suffer or miscommunication can happen.

On your deathbed you don’t want to think back and wish you had told someone how much you loved them.

You also don’t want to hold onto feelings of resentment or harbor ill feelings at the end of your life.

What can I do now - Forgive often and love freely making a conscious effort to tell others what they mean to you.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

No one wants to die alone.

No one wants to feel like no one will care when they leave this earth.

One of the biggest regrets is that you don’t realize how important your old friends are until the end when it is not possible to reconnect with them.

Many people get so caught up in their own lives that they let important friendships go thinking there will be time later on to rekindle those friendships.

But as time goes by, it becomes harder to reach out and rebuild those relationships.

What can I do now - Reach out to your old friends. Email your best friend in high school or take your college roommate out to lunch.

It’s the little things that show that you care that keep friendships alive for years.

6. I wish I’d had followed my passion.

When people look back over their life, it is easy to see how many times they have given up on their dreams.

Sometimes it is because of logistics and practicality that they can’t follow their dreams and so they drop it completely.

The loss of that passion is devastating as they live the last days of their lives.

What can I do now - Find your passion and find a way to incorporate it in your life.

No, I am not condoning leaving your job and moving to Nashville to become a country singer. But if singing is your passion find a way to share your gift and live your dream in your circumstances that you are have available to you.

5. I wish that I would have been happier.

It’s funny how many people don’t realize that happiness is a choice.

Realizing that you are in control of how you are feeling can change your life’s perspective.

A happy life is also proven to help lengthen your lifetime.

What can I do now - Decide now to be happy and work at finding happiness in the little things in life no matter what circumstances you are given.

All in all, don’t live your life with regrets to carry with you until the last days on earth. You have the gift of time to live your life so go do it!

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